The following information could help if your child has lost or is about to lose someone, such as a family member or friend.
If your child is about to lose someone
If a child has a loved one, such as a friend or family member who's going to die, they can benefit from special support.
A child's stress level is often at its highest before bereavement because of fear and the unknown.
Pre-bereavement counselling gives a child a chance to think and talk about their feelings and share their worries.
The YoungMinds website has more information on counselling services for children and young people.
Making a memory box
If you're a parent and you know you're going to die, you could make a memory box to give to your child or make one together.
A memory box contains things that remind you both of your time together. It can provide an important link between you and your child once you've gone.
Macmillan Cancer Support has information about making a memory box.
If a child has lost someone
Talk about the person who has died
During bereavement, it can help a child to talk about the person who's died, whether it was a grandparent, parent, brother, sister or friend.
Direct, honest and open communication is more helpful than trying to protect your child by hiding the truth. If you exclude them from family ceremonies and services after someone has died it could make them feel excluded.
This can also help your child be open about their own feelings and avoid confusion about what has happened. It may be helpful to talk as a family, perhaps with your child, about how to include them in any events that celebrate or say goodbye to the person who has died.
It's important for them to have someone with whom they can talk about that person and share their emotions. This could be through photos, games, memory boxes or stories.
Over time, children may start to talk more about their loss at different times and in different ways. Young children may start talking about death or including it in their play, but this is normal and is a way for them to make sense of what has happened.
Further support for your child can be found below
Chums: Bereavement Support
CHUMS was initially created to meet the needs of children and their families following the death of someone close, however they may have died.
We offer support in a variety of ways to children, young people and their families across Luton, Bedfordshire, Cambridgeshire and Peterborough.
You can find out more by visiting their website by clicking here
Chums: Bereavement Guide for Schools
This helpful resource aims to support schools in the event of a pupil sufferening a bereavement.
You can view this resource by clicking here
Childhood Bereavement Network
This is the hub for those professionals supporting bereaved children. Here you will find advice and guidance, resources and links to local services.
You can view thier website by clicking here
National bereavement helplines
- Child Bereavement UK – call 0800 028 8840 Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm, or email email@example.com
- Cruse Bereavement Care – call 0808 808 1677 Monday and Friday, 9.30am to 5pm, and Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 9.30am to 8pm, or email firstname.lastname@example.org
- Grief Encounter – call 0808 802 0111 Monday to Friday, 9am to 9pm, or email email@example.com
- Hope Again – call 0808 808 1677 Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 5pm, or email firstname.lastname@example.org
- Winston's Wish – call 0808 802 0021 Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm, or email email@example.com